As I drove to work this morning, I heard a radio presenter pose a question that struck a chord: “What advice would you give to someone preparing for their high school exams?” It got me thinking—what advice would I give my younger self if I had the chance?

So here are some pieces of wisdom I’d like to pass on, whether you’re navigating exams, starting a career, or just figuring out this wild journey called life.

1. Embrace Who You Are—Fully

It’s easy to wish you were different—taller, thinner, smarter, or more successful. But here’s what I wish I knew: You are perfect just as you are.

We often compare ourselves to others. I didn’t realize then that the people I admired were dealing with their own insecurities. So, instead of trying to “fit in,” I wish I had spent more time embracing who I was and valuing myself. Each of us brings something unique to the world, like different flowers in a garden. Without variety, the garden would lose its beauty.

So, take a deep breath and accept yourself, imperfections and all. That’s the foundation of true growth.

2. Trust the Journey—You Are Never Alone

Life can be unpredictable. Some days, it feels like everything is going according to plan, and other days, you may wonder whether it will work out—whether you have what it takes to succeed. But here’s the thing: You are never alone.

Countless times, I have been disappointed, especially in business. I had great hopes for a breakthrough, a deal to materialize that would take the company to the next level. Sometimes I could not see any light at the end of the tunnel when I doubted my abilities, choices, and future. But looking back now, I know it was the push I needed to find a better path. Whether you call it fate, the universe, or divine guidance, there’s a greater force guiding your path. Even when things go wrong—and trust me, they will—there’s often a reason, even if you can’t see it immediately.

Over time, you’ll realize that setbacks often carry the most profound lessons. And even when they don’t seem to, it’s okay. Keep going and trust the process—life has a way of working things out.

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3. Find Your Purpose—Dream

We all have been put on this earth for a purpose. That purpose is different for each of us; it will constantly change and evolve as you go through life.

Fundamentally, I believe that each of us desires to be valued, to be of use, and to make a difference. You can do this in many ways, whether you work in a call center or are a parent or an executive. Irrespective of your occupation, you can be of value to others.

Secondly, I feel there is a desire for growth in all of us—to earn more, to learn more, or to find deeper meaning. Take time to rest, but then keep on moving and searching.

The important part is this: always have something you’re working toward. A dream or goal will keep you energized, motivated, and ready to take on the day. Whether personal or professional, ensure you have a vision that excites you.

4. Don’t Let Fear Call the Shots

Fear has an uncanny ability to creep up on you and prevent you from pursuing your dreams. It will make you question yourself and your abilities. My advice? Don’t let fear hold you back.

Whenever fear tells you that you’re not good enough, that you won’t succeed, or that you should give up, remember this: you are capable of overcoming whatever obstacles lie ahead. Numerous times, I froze when great opportunities knocked on my door. If you’re not careful, you won’t notice fear settling in until you are in its stranglehold. Look out for it, and when you sense it, remind yourself that you are not alone. The universe, with all its power, is on your side. When fear knocks at the door, answer confidently, knowing you’ve got what it takes to succeed.

5. Love What You Do—Even When It’s Hard

The opposite of fear is love—love for what you do. Find love for the journey. Whether you’re pursuing a career, a project, or nurturing relationships, make sure there’s joy in the process. And when times get tough—and they will—remember why you started. Passion fuels resilience, and that resilience will carry you through even the most challenging moments.

When you have a dream, you’ll face challenges. You cannot avoid stressful circumstances, but you can choose how to respond. Rather than avoiding obstacles, accept them and welcome the pain instead of fighting it. These bumps on the road are there to teach you, help you grow stronger, and sharpen your skills.

For every two steps forward, you will be thrown back one. I often wished I could quit, disappear into the earth, to find some relief, but I have managed to stay the course. Not giving up is probably the biggest difference between those who win and those who lose.

6. Practice Delayed Gratification—The Best Is Yet to Come

I still hear my mother’s voice reminding me to eat my vegetables before dessert. As much as I didn’t want to listen to it back then, it’s a metaphor for life. Success often requires patience.

There will be times when the excitement fades, and progress feels much too slow. During these moments, dig deep and keep pushing forward. The more you persevere, the more satisfying the rewards will be when they come. It’s tempting to look for shortcuts, but lasting success comes from hard work and dedication. Remember, the sweetest victories come to those who wait.

7. Accept What Is

We all have ideas about how life should go and how people should behave. When things don’t match our expectations, it’s easy to get upset. Some feel hopeless or anxious—I tend to get angry. I’m still learning this lesson, but I’ve realized that judging less and accepting more is critical.

When we judge, we try to force others to fit into our mold. But because we’re all unique, this often leads to frustration. I’ve felt this, especially with my partner. I used to expect her to be who I wanted her to be, but I’ve come to understand that she is her own person, and if I truly love her, I must accept her as she is.

My advice is this: Don’t try to change your partner. Change yourself—change how you think and react. This applies not just to relationships but to all people—accept them as they are

The same goes for life’s events. Things won’t always go your way. You can feel overwhelmed, or you can accept what is and trust the process. Spiritually, this is called surrender—having faith that a higher power is guiding you. Behind every cloud, the sun is still shining. Trust that everything will work out. That faith will give you strength, hope, and patience when life gets tough.

To anyone reading this—whether you’re studying for exams, stepping into a new chapter of life, or just trying to find your way—these lessons are my gift to you. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Accept yourself, trust your journey, face your fears, pursue your dreams, work hard, and accept. You’ve got this.

What advice would you give to your younger self? I invite you to reflect on your journey and share the wisdom you’ve gained along the way. You never know who might need to hear it.

Wishing you all the success and happiness in the world.

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Author : Stefan Lauber